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Whether in a marriage or in a court room, sometimes it is not easy to determine if someone is being deceptive. Cultures have attempted to root out the lies over centuries and through countless methods. Ancient China required the accused to place a handful of rice in their mouth. If it was returned dry then the speaker was adjudged guilty of lying since a dry mouth was thought to be a tell-tale sign. European and African cultures developed other tests but all were meant to expose involuntary reactions by a person when they were being untruthful.
Today the ‘eyes’ have it. The saying begins, ‘look me in the eye and tell me . . .’ The problem: less than a third of conversation even incorporates direct eye contact. Eye contact is culturally subjective and not even as good an indicator as some of the more antiquated methods referenced above! Now directions of the eyes or involuntary facial expressions that so many thriller novel addicts read, called microexpressions or microbursts are currently thought to be the most accurate physical indicators of truth or not. The problem, they can last less than a second and require a good deal of training and knowledge of the speaker to interpret.
You may be dealing with a gentleman. That gentleman may be a liar and cheat but unfortunately, there is no fool-proof way to tell. Still, proper research and training may make you a better judge of the truth since the average person only detects about half the lies they are told!